In a few short weeks, my best friend of 22 years will be having her first baby – a baby girl – and I could not be more excited and happy for her! In preparation for her baby shower a few weeks ago, I came across New Mommy Advice Cards and I started thinking about what advice I would give her as a new Mommy.
As a rule, I am careful to give advice to fellow Mama’s, new or veteran, simply because every baby is so different and unique. I prefer to share my experiences, my stories, and offer suggestions for whatever challenge Mama and/or Baby may be experiencing.
Here is my advice, my words of wisdom, for all of you soon-to-be and new Mommies, especially for my T:
- Figure out what your priorities are in 3 main areas: eating, sleeping and social.
- Eating: What will you feed baby, breast or bottle? If breastfeeding, keep in mind your nipples may become sore, dry, chapped and may bleed; breastfeeding hurts at first (which no one tells you – the nipple pain is no joke!) but, eventually, the pain will go away. If breastfeeding is truly a priority for you, which it was for me, just keep baby on the boob and work on establishing a a really good latch and milk supply.
- Sleeping: Where will baby sleep, in her room or with you (co-sleep)? Because I breastfed both boys, I used a co-sleeper beside our bed for convenience and it was a lifesaver especially when I was feeding around the clock. I loved having them close and still do – to this day, we are still a co-sleeping family!
- Social: Find your tribe; don’t forget your girlfriends, those with and without kids and make friends with other Mommies. Maternity leave can be lonely and you may feel isolated at times, so keeping old and making new connections can make all the difference.
- Take all advice with a grain of salt and remember what works for one baby may or may not work for yours.
- Be kind to yourself. Take your time. Choose easy and convenient whenever possible.
You are getting to know your baby, and she is getting to know you. No one will ever know her better than you, so trust your maternal instincts.
To my dearest best friend, my partner in crime and my Soul Sister: You are an amazing person and I love you so much…Welcome to the Sisterhood of Motherhood! Baby Girl is very lucky to have you as her Mommy and I know you are going to do an amazing job!
Girlfriends! What advice would you give to your best friend as she becomes a new Mommy? What was the best advice you received when you became a new Mommy? Share them below in the comments.